Things to leave behind in 2019:
1. Negative self-talk
3. The feeling of not being enough
4. The fear of making the first move
5. The need to be busy constantly
6. The desire to please everyone.
Things to embrace in 2020:
- Serendipitous encounters
- Heart-to-heart talks
- Letting go of structure and routine, following my mood and curiosity
- Saying what’s on my mind
- Listening to my body
- Reading more books, watching more films, putting the phone down
Sometimes, the thought of how finite our time is terrifies me. It sends me into a desperate frenzy to do everything all at once. Pick up a new skill. Enroll in a new course. Pack my social schedule back-to-back. Work on several side hustles. Complete my work ahead of time. Read multiple books at once. Write multiple books at once. No rest for the weary.
I had this insane thought that I needed to achieve everything I set out to in my twenties, otherwise I would have wasted all my youth. We only have that many decades to live, after all.
But it was in my relentless pursuit in the race against time that I had, ironically, lost time. Time to live instead of merely carve out a life.
Maybe we’re not meant to do everything all at once. Maybe I’ve been sprinting all this time with the audacious hope that I could be the one to defy the odds, unwilling to accept my fallibility. Maybe instead of constantly trying to push our limits, we need to understand why they exist to begin with. Maybe that’s when we can finally grow beyond our past selves.
So as this decade begins, I’m staring the present right in the figurative eye before it, too, becomes another memory. Not every moment has been perfect, but I’m thankful for every step of the way – the tears and laughter, the sleepless nights and hazy days, the moments of crippling despair and the moments of unadulterated happiness.
May we all enter the new decade with the same audacity and hope, but also more kindness for ourselves. After all, we only have that many decades to live.
Happy New Year to one and all!